What do you want? I’m sure you get asked that question at least weekly. Whether it is about dinner, relationships or anything else in life where you need to have an answer. Life is full of decisions and putting your wants and needs first is usually not something we feel comfortable with. As women, and I’m not speaking for all in my gender, but we tend to be giving to a fault, conscious of other’s needs, deficient in time and overwhelmed in responsibilities. Life right? Yes, but us ladies seem to have a few more items on our plate then men, when it comes to daily logistical fulfillment…aka...getting stuff done. I actually think I’d like to start a trend by announcing a new title for all those who are a Daily Logistical Fulfillment Officer! Although we might have to wear that big S on our shirt like Superman did, he needs to move over and let us take charge. With all that said, sometimes we just don’t have enough time for ourselves! Getting an appointment to get your hair cut or a pedicure, or if you are lucky enough to get a massage, those few hours to nurture yourself are too far in between to make a real difference. We should establish good habits of taking time for yourself to replenish what you give out to others in your daily life.
Then guilt might find its way into your head and this is where you need to smother that bitch. Everyone should take time to recharge their internal battery and feel the love & nurturing that you deserve as you have given to others. You don’t have to spend a lot of money in order to let “Calgon take you away” as they say. Sometimes finding quiet, by yourself is a just reward but don’t feel bad for needing or wanting that.
So, what do you want? Besides a couple million in the bank or any other material desire, what do you want? Can you find a first step in achieving that? Are you willing to explore your deeper wants & needs? Are you fulfilling your purpose? Can you say you are truly happy?
These are important questions to think about when pondering what you want. If we can be any help to you, send us an email. I am thinking of teaching a course on finding your purpose and Kay & I will be doing some podcasts on this subject if you are interested. Blessings, Judee
How do you define Respect? For me, its one of the most important word in our industry that I feel sometimes is abused and not really considered when we interact with one another. For me, the definition of Respect is the sense a worth or a personal value that you give someone, even if you don’t agree with him or her. Respect is an act towards someone based on many reasons, what that person is doing with their life, how they treat you and others, and if they are demonstrating positive actions, large or small, for other people. In short, respect is a positive view that you form of how someone is living his or her life. Although we look for respect in others, we relate better when we have respect for each other, however, before you can truly respect others and hold them accountable, one has to have self-respect and how you’re living your own life right?
I believe, when respecting yourself, you’re giving and defining your own worth and value. If you do not respect yourself, it will be difficult for you to respect anyone else. So it begins with self-respect and you! So, how do I go about respecting myself? I have outlined below that I have been working on for most of my career, of course, I am a believer that you will always be changing, growing and making efforts of being a good and kind human being. So, I hope that the list resonates with you and encourage you to think about how you can help change our industry in a more accepting, kind and patient one and take the list and add your own, in fact, let’s do it together.
I have experienced some pretty amazing people in my life and some not so amazing. I started thinking that I need to change my mindset and value what I do to continue to be successful in this industry, I also believe in surrounding yourself with those who want to help, encourage, mentor and be honest to help you grow to your full potential.
The goal is this; once you begin to genuinely adopt, develop, believe in these, you’ll be on your way to a solid understanding of self-respect. Of course, some on the list have more impact on your self-respect and you’ll have to determine how to implement them for your comfort and growth as a human. Ok, so here we go: Being An Honest Person: be honest with yourself and with others. Learning to Listen: part of learning self-respect involves respecting the beliefs of others. Value of Good Manners: knowing and exercising good manners and proper conduct will make you feel good about yourself, and, in return, others will respect you for your good manners and proper conduct. Accept Personal Responsibility for Your Own Conduct: Part of being a respected; person involves taking responsibility for your own actions this one is a biggie. Learning When, Why and How to Apologize: accepting responsibility involves formally apologizing for wrongdoing and striving to make amends it will grow your relationships stronger – trust me. Understand Which of Your Friends are Good Influences and Which Ones are Bad Influences: unfortunately, we must learn to empower those who are good influences and ignore those who are bad influences, but I believe we can always help those who could improve. Having Goals and Plans for Reaching Them: each goal you set and attain, you will gain strength to challenge yourself a little more; the more goals you attain, the more your self-respect will grow and those around you will be a part of this growth. Showing Respect for Others: Just like with yourself, when you demonstrate respect for others, you give value to their being and ideals. You’ll make someone feel good by respecting them, its what everyone deserves. I would encourage you to address each of the above within your own personal and professional beliefs in order to expect it from others. In the words of a great person, “I cannot conceive of a greater loss than the loss of one's self-respect.” -Mahatma Gandhi One of the best ways, but the hardest is to show respect for someone is to truly listen to another’s point of view. Of course, we’ll may not always agree with one another on every topic (and one should never agree on a point of view for which you may not agree on) however, we should allow each other to have and express our own views – regardless of whether we agree with them or not. We, as professionals owe everyone a basic level of respect for being a fellow human being, and of course, your level of respect for others will vary from person to person. Like self-respect it will grow as you grow, your level of respect for others will vary depending upon your view of them and their own self-respect, but all deserve respect.
There’s nothing wrong with giving some people greater respect than others. We should always strive to be kind, patient and polite to everyone. For obvious reasons, some of us simply deserve more respect than others, and of course I would like to change that, I know, I know – a huge challenge. Even though we may have some challenging colleagues, family members or even friends, I always lead by being kind, polite and apply a level of respect for them. My belief and this is my own belief, Respect is most noble and challenging sentiments. I would encourage you all to start thinking and working on the above list and keep adding as you grow and learn from one another. I have been keeping a journal to track my thoughts, my progress on being a better human towards my colleagues, try to stay humble, provide kindness, and work on being still within myself. Always, if you need help with any of them, turn to a valued listener for help, and push yourself to seek someone whom you may not know, but have admired in wanting to get to know.
I will be hosting a keynote panel on this subject RESPECT at SourceCon. #staffing #respect #value #empowering #change #sourcecon #conference #growth